So I took a personality test (because Elizabeth took it & I like her bunches) & oddly enough, it didn’t tell me that I have a shitty one. I half-expected the results to come back TRY AGAIN, LOSER but it turns out I’m an ENFJ:
- Extravert
- Intuitive
- Feeling
- Judging
Yeah, I’d say that’s pretty darn accurate although I’m the first to admit that in large crowds where I don’t know anyone, I am a hyperventilating shrinking violet. I guess that’s why they mentioned that I am just barely classified as an introvert. Small crowds: Extravert BA. Big crowds: Introvert BA. & while I may be an extravert, I say really awkward things to fill up the silent spaces. Extravert doesn’t always mean social grace.
ENFJs have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it’s usually not meant as manipulation — ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.
See? I’m a manipulative bitch. But I’m super-nice & sincere about it.
The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. ENFJs are with whom we associate organization and decisiveness. Their offices may not be cluttered, but their conclusions (reached through feelings) about people and motives are drawn much more quickly and are more resilient. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.
Some other famous ENFJ’s include Bill Clinton, Oprah, & King David. This basically explains my desire to rule control everything.
But does this really explain why I NEED to have my house 100% clean in preperation for the snow tonight? Like I’m hosting it for brunch or something.
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this post made me lol.
Sounds like we’d get along great. Or clash like crazy since this also describes me pretty well. I even understand the urge to clean for the snow. I don’t understand why, but I do understand the urge.
I’d also recommend the book MotherStyles as a library read. It translates your Myers Briggs personality type into your mothering style. Talks about what you are good at as a parent with this personality type and what your challenges are.
This book helped me see that I get drained by the chaos of two boys in my house because of my personality type, not because I am exhausted and a crap mom.
I’m an ISTJ, which basically translates to “boring stick-in-the-mud”! Great timing on this post b/c I was in Myers-Briggs training all day yesterday! I think your need to have a clean house is due to your “J” preference. The last letter refers to how you experience the world. Js want order and dislike surprises. They are planners who want control and think there is a place for everything.
I’m planning a post on this b/c I feel like a J who has been living uncomfortably in a P world
Giggling because the more my house looks like shit, the more comfortable I am when the snow comes (but I do tend to go to the grocery store and buy All The Things.) It gets to me eventually, the mess and LEGO underfoot, but for the most part? Leave that mess there and let’s bake some pie. Also, INFP: Introvert, Intuitive, Intuitive Feeling, Perceiving
“like I am hosting it for brunch or something” was the part that made me laugh.
I love those personality tests! I’m an IFSJ (introvert, sensory,feelings, judgement). My husband is a rare INTP.introvert, intuitive, thinking, perception. They hit the nail on the head with us, even though we each took the test like, 7 times. I’m the nurturer, while he is the thinker.
and we don’t get much snow, but I like to have a spotless house as I’m going to bed on Christmas eve. Cause you know, Santa might judge me lol
your results seem true to you
I’m absolutely going to take this test! Thanks for sharing. You remind me a lot of myself, in what you said here!
I just took it and I am an ENJF too. Fist bump for cleanliness!
And this is yet another reason that when I read your blog I think that you must be reading my mind… #ENFJalltheway
I have to have my house clean before we go on vacation. When my husband asked me why last time, I barked that if the house burned down I didn’t want the firefighters additionally endangering themselves by tripping on our kids toys. Yep. I get that.
HOORAY for ENFJs! Me too… & I can totally relate on every level. Clean for the snowstorm? Snort.
I’m an ENFJ too
ENFJ folkd FTW!
ENFJ over here too. I knew there was a reason I could relate!
INFJ…fits me rather well. thank you for sharing
I’m an ENFJ too!!
I think this test is bunk…. I scored ENFJ and I think I am fairly dissimmilar from you. My primary basis for this theory: I hate cleaning. LOL. Also, I kind of suck at multi-tasking.
friend — I’m an ENFJ too! Made me smile
I’m an ENFJ too! I have to have the house clean (or at least everything picked up and put away) before I go to bed every night, before I leave for work in the mornings, before we leave on vacation, etc etc etc. It’s a never-ending cycle for me, and people always mention how clean my house is…especially for a mother of two little ones! I literally just can’t function if things are out of order. Of course, there are days that I’m more relaxed about it than others (and I typically let the playroom get pretty crazy), but for the most part, I prefer my house to be very orderly. My husband is the exact same way.
I’m an ISFP – introvert, sensing, feeling, perceiving. Which means I basically live in the moment and shun all deadlines and obligations. Also, “ISFPs may be quite charming and ingratiating on first acquaintance, flowing with compliments. On other occasions, the same individual may be aloof and detached.”
Okay, that’s scary accurate.
Haha. This is great! I love seeing how personality tests play out in real life.
INFP!
Also, I think being an introvert or extravert for the Myers-Briggs test means you either feel energized from socializing with others, or you get energy from having alone time. (Sorry… my abnormal psych class from a few semesters back is being all “yeeeeah! you know this stuff!!”). But anyway, it makes sense that you’d not necessarily be super talkative in big groups
New to your blog and the snow thing made me laugh! Last Thursday night we were supposed to get some kind of frozen precipitation so I went into the weekend with all the laundry done and the house clean. I have never heard anyone else say they do that too!
Me tooo! When I googled famous ENFJs, I was surprised that the list was like 90 percent male. Hmmmm.
Oh my gosh, so glad I’m not alone! Anytime we get word of nasty wether I immediately go into a cleaning, organizing, cozy-ing frenzy. I like my nest just so if we are going to be all cooped up for days
Yes, I know any type can have a relationship with any other type. But I’m kind of interested how an INTP and an ENFJ would work. What would the dynamics of such a relationship be? Based purely off of personality types, would it work good, ok, not so good? Just interested.