It seems like all we do these days is work, where we are ships passing with a kiss in the morning & we are Momma & Daddy & constantly crunching the numbers of our bank account. We wrangled a cranky toddler & replaced a toilet & I wore yoga pants with no makeup all weekend. We folded laundry together while the boy took a bath & told ourselves that we’d stay up to chat over a cup of coffee but found ourselves pulling back the covers as soon as Harrison fell asleep.
But then in that last exhausted moment of the day, your hand found mine & gave it a squeeze.
Sometimes I think the “Seven Year Itch” is less of an itch & more of a realization that life is messy & imperfect & there’s always going to be “something,” coupled with the final acceptance that I’m not going to change you & you’re not going to change me. It’s equally frustrating & liberating but I will never give up on those butterflies I feel when you wink at me over the dinner table.
There’s nobody I’d rather be with than you.
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I love that, it is exactly how I feel about my husband of seven years!
Seven years here, too, and you described it perfectly! Needed to read this after a hard morning. Thanks
We had our seventh anniversary this year too, and definitely life has gotten in the way of focusing on just each other. But a weekend with no plans made al the difference this last weekend… We still ran some errands, but not having a ‘list’ made it easier to dawdle and daydream… All while chasing a 3 y o through Lowes.
Christmas is always romantic for us too.
I feel the exact same way about my husband.
This is my life, exactly. And I love it, every messy, complicated bit of it.
One of my new faves of yours. Perfectly stated and relatable by SO many of us!
this is perfect. and beautiful. and you made me cry…. <3
joining the seven year club. I think the itch for us is more of a yearning to get back to how we felt 7 years ago, instead of like semi-zombie-parent-business-running-never-not-working-is-life-always-involving-so-much-laundry-why-can’t-we-have-sex-at-lunch-on-a-sunday-why-is-someone-always-peeing-on-something… exhaustion.
Another favorite piece! Thanks for making so many unspoken feelings okay to share and celebrate! Blessings!
oh, this post gave me warm little fuzzies. we celebrated our seventh anniversary in april (been together of 11 years – omg!), and i totally get what you’re saying. happy monday, ba!
Brought tears to my eyes. Couldn’t agree more. Thank you for putting such beautiful words to these feelings we married couples feel so often.
yes, yes, yes. isn’t marriage the best?
Well fuck. You show me up on my own GD anniversary. Well said.
Your post is so relateable!
It’s how I feel too. Life is busy with kids (1 here, 1 on the way) and it changes your relationship but it’s ok, just something we all need to realize but still make time for eachother. 
Loved reading your post. Thank you!
Um, and wow, when did Harrison turn 5?? He looks so grown up in that pic! He also looks more than ever like you.
My hubby’s wink gives me butterflies, too, even after all these years.
There is something so beautiful about a love as it grows.
We’ve been married 12 yrs, but have had kids for almost 7 yrs, so we know all too well how easy it is for a husband and wife to turn into roomates – sharing chores and duties and verging dangerously close to a platonic relationship. After kids, you have to work really hard to stay out of the roomate zone with your spouse, and get back to those newlywed feelings – they’re still there, deep down under homework, dinner, and errands!
Beautifully written and truly captures how love in a marriage grows with time
Nailed it. We’re at 6.5 years and that’s close enough to 7. It’s amazing how much a wink can mean. Unless it comes from me. I’m an awkward winker. It’s one of those things you pull off or can’t. I’m in the can’t bucket.
Beautiful post. Love how relatable you are in your writing.
This is wonderful. So true. Thank you for the sweetly written reminder!
I love it, BA. Thanks so much.