Before I was pregnant, I thought baby-wearing was only for hippies that were way too involved in their child’s life. Then I got pregnant & realized that baby carriers were THE thing to have as a) a way to bond with the kid & b) an accessory. I registered for the typical black forward-facing carrier & the far more hipster wrap, picturing myself in maternal bliss with my
baby snuggled close to my chest. Which happened a few times & it was beautiful & magazine-worthy.
But for most of his newborn days, wrapping him to my chest was a desperate attempt to calm his reflux scream & get him to nap. He would be inconsolable & thrashing & I would wrap him tight & he would immediately calm & fall asleep. It worked beautifully to settle both him & my nerves. I highly recommend a wrap for anyone with a colic/reflux/difficult baby.
Plus? Exercise while wearing 15 lbs of baby helped me lose my own pounds. I’d put him in the carrier & step out for fresh air & sunshine.
Then that whole if-anyone-but-momma-touches-me-I-will-die! phase. Wearing him was the only way I cooked dinner, emptied the dishwasher, or grocery shopped. Life doesn’t pause just because your baby has separation anxiety, unfortunately. It also was a life-saver when he was in that stage where he couldn’t walk in the store by himself but hated sitting in the cart – I’d toss him on my back & he could see the store but not wander.
Some folks outgrow their carriers as the babe moves into toddlerhood but I admit that we started using it even more. Crowds + active toddler = my love affair with my sturdier carrier. I could strap him to me without messing with a stroller in crowds & he couldn’t run off. Win!
Truthfully, I had a few odd looks from family members in the beginning because any leaning towards crunchy-ness surprised them. But after watching Harry & I in baby-wearing action, The Momma was wishing she could take that wrap back thirty years with her first-born, who was also a colicky baby.
Looking back, I wish I’d worn Harry even more than I did but hindsight, you know? For the next baby, I’m definitely planning on more baby-wearing & investing in a ring-sling – I’d love to try out a hip carry.
Did you baby-wear? Are you a super-prep like me that baby-wears wearing Oxford shirts & pearls, basically looking like a dog walking on its hind legs?